Hi anita,

I am looking forward to your reply.

I was thinking about my fears – and it is all about history repeating itself –

1. – Fear of getting fired – like my father did

2. Fear of commitment – i am afraid to get married as the guy may turn out to be like my father or uncles.

3. Fear of not being loved – i think this thread will explain that 🙂

4. Fear of not being accepted – all the things I got bullied for – fat, ugly, nerd – that these are  what made me unlikable  and will make me unlikable in the future like they did till now.

5. Fear of the unknown – all the what ifs – I think seeing my family crumble and fall has made me defensive – where will the next blow to my life come from?

6. Fear I will not make it – this is similar to 5. That I may not be able to handle life. You have helped me see that there is nothing i could have done in my childhood and more importantly, i am not my parents. However, this fear is that i won’t be able to handle all of life’s surprises.

Do you think changing my core belief would help with these fears too? Or does it involve something else?

And also, how should I start to change the core belief? I don’t care how long it takes, just thinking that I could feel better about myself feels so liberating.

Girija