Dear marthams:

Your grandmother is a bad mother and a bad grandmother. She has been repeatedly and habitually hostile and cruel to her own children when they were children, I bet, and all through all their adulthood (your mother, aunt, uncle) as well as to her grandchildren (you and a few of your cousins).

It would have been nice if you had a nice grandmother, but you don’t and there is no way for you to .. make her someone she is not.

I suggest that you don’t do her hair anymore, don’t try to make her like you, don’t apologize for doing nothing wrong to her, and protect yourself from her by staying away from her. I hope that your mother stays away from her as well.

* I will be away from the computer for a while. I hope other members answer you as well. If you post again, I will read and reply to you when I return to the computer.

anita