This is very accurate, the most perfect description of this situation, Anita,  I am really surprised. I didn’t even mention here that people on her “good list” now once were on her “bad list”, it has happened as well.  You are indeed right with the “dumpster” as well. I really regret calling her when my mom wanted me to, because “I should” or doing her hair because there is a need for it, when I clearly knew that she has no interest in my life, she rarely talks to me, she often talks about my other cousins, and her life. In fact I often got bored sitting there because I used to sit there and listen, she didn’t actually have a conversation with me, a dialog. I wasted many hours sitting there and being bored.