Dear limbikanimaria:

The conversation you had with him happened less than a week ago, Sunday. He told you that “he would be happy to call (you) his girlfriend”. Five days later you found out that he was active on the dating app where you met him yesterday, and that his profile is not hidden, like yours.

If I was you, I wouldn’t be alarmed by your discovery today for the following reasons:

1. He didn’t tell you that he will hide his profile, so it is not that he lied or failed to follow his word with action.

2. The fact that he was active yesterday does not mean he pursued new leads or was continuing correspondences with other women. It may be that he has been in the habit of checking his acct for so long that he simply did again what he was in the habit of doing, maybe curious about new activity.

3. The conversation last Sunday was not specific enough. The two of you did not discuss what it means to be in a boyfriend/ girlfriend relationship, it was only mentioned.

– therefore, if I was you, I would talk with him next about what it means to have a bf/gf relationship, including the dating app status appropriate to the relationship you are having.

anita