Dear marthams:

You are welcome. As to your grandmother crying that time… you know how in cartoons, the bad character is always bad? In life, a bad person is not always bad.

As children we see the world in black and white, all or nothing, either this or that. So we think a bad person is always bad. Then we see a moment of love felt by that person and we get confused: well, maybe she is a good person after all!

No, it is not like this, all-or-nothing. All bad people start as good people, good babies/ young children. That good part never dies until the person dies. What happens to that good part is that in bad people it is locked away. So as an observer, you see that good child sometimes as it gets away from its locked room for a moment, but only for a moment, before she is back into her locked room. And what you have  on an ongoing basis is the bad person that child has become.

Confusing?

anita