Dear Gautam:

She cried, her eyes were watery, it doesn’t mean that she’ll break. People endure a whole lot of sadness and they keep living, keep functioning. Sadness doesn’t kill.

She confided in you, the two of you became best friends. Reads to me that she wants to remain friends with you but she herself stated that she doesn’t want a romantic relationship, she doesn’t feel romantically toward you.

Are you able and willing to be friends with her but look for a romantic relationship with another woman, like she herself suggested that you do?

And are you afraid of your own sadness, of you breaking, somehow, if you give up on pursuing her for a romantic relationship?

anita