Dear SallyDaisy:

“she seemed to know their motive.. I wondered why I hadn’t been able to see it myself”- if your mother was correct regarding that man’s motive, it doesn’t mean she is usually or always correct. After all, a broken clock is correct twice every 24 hours. Every person is correct from time to time.

Regarding your last relationship, “she’s saying how much he probably misses me, regrets what he did etc”- how does she know? She can’t. People say these things to make the person with the broken heart feel better, that is all. And you do feel better when she says these things, “This is like a drug to me because that’s what I want to hear”.

But convenient, wishful thinking stops us from seeing reality as it is, learning from it and moving forward toward a better life.

You wrote about your mother: “She thinks I’m a b*&*&… She was extremely hostile towards me”- will you tell me how do you know that she thinks you are a b*&&*- did she tell you that you are?

And, will you list the ways in which she was extremely hostile toward you?

anita