Dear K:

You are welcome. “I feel as if I am not insecure up until I have feelings of love start to form and it’s like I turn into a complete different person, an emotional jealous insecure little girl”-

– the feeling of love for a man, that includes a need that he loves you back, a need for him to be there for you. And that need activates the fear that (like your mother experienced), the man will stop loving you back, will cheat on you. That fear leads to your frantic efforts to avoid such imagined hurt, including  breaking up with the man (as you might have done last night).

anita