Dear Victoria:

I would say priority #1 is that neither your mother nor you (or any siblings) live with your father, that a separation takes place safely. When that happens, your mother will probably need psychotherapy as well. I have more thoughts but have to get away from the computer. I will be back in about 12 hours from now. I will then re-read what you shared and anything you may add before I return, and reply further.

I hope other members answer you as well.

anita