Dear Meg:

“Whats up with my friend?” -Your (former) friend is not well. She is distressed and depressed and needs professional help: a general medical doctor to evaluate her general health, a psychiatrist to evaluate current psychiatric drugs she is taking and consider a different prescription/s, a psychotherapist and help regarding her alcohol use (Alcoholic Anonymous may help).

“Or is it me?”- she is unwell regardless of who you are, and not because of you.

As-is, you shouldn’t spend time with her, not in her place, not in your place. At the most, if I was you, I would meet her in a public location, such as a coffee shop or a casual restaurant. This way I could leave anytime I want, not feeling trapped with her in any way.

anita