Anita,

It was mainly about the things that I mentioned. My ex has a very different political viewpoint to her mother. My ex has never been very into politics, whereas I am, but she does know her own ideology and would frequently say that her instinct is to ‘always stick up for the little guy’, but her mother has a more hands-on approach to things, an attitude that kind of says the little guy doesn’t need protecting because he should be able to fight for himself. Her and mum share some beliefs, but not anything religious – her mother identifies as a Christian, whereas my ex is very comfortable admitting she’s agnostic, and also has a deep belief in a karmic universe that her mother doesn’t have much time for. They both have a belief in spirits though. According to my ex, her mum was able to communicate with the spirit world, and she’s often had experiences growing up where her mother would ‘tap into’ this ability. My ex believes she can ‘sense’ things, is only how she ever described it, but that she doesn’t believe she’s on a wavelength with her mother. I’m honestly not into all of that stuff, but I don’t scoff at it or whatever, to me it was just interesting to hear the tales of people who do believe.

She often would say that her mum was strong, but she felt that she herself was weak. I don’t know that it’s worth reading too much into that though, I imagine most girls would say that their mother was the strongest person they know.