Dear Emila:

Thank you for explaining to me what you meant, and for wanting me to know that you “see/hear (me)”!  (I didn’t think you were selfish at all when I read your post before last).

I think that many  people who are extroverted are anxious when alone, so they seek the company of others in order to feel less anxious.

Many people who are introverted are anxious when in the company of others so they seek time alone in order to feel less anxious.

In a healthy person I imagine it is a balance of time alone and time in the company of others.

anita