Dear Ivey:

Are you certain that you want to end the relationship, and the only thing you are struggling with is “How to” end it, not if to end it?

You mentioned being attracted to girls and to guys, maybe more to girls. Thing is, any woman who is in a committed, monogamous relationship gives up on potential other-relationships, with other-people, women and men. In other words, a sexual preference does not exclude having a committed, monogamous relationship.

It is definitely unhealthy for him to be exposed to an on-again-off-again relationship with you. So it does need to be either on or off.

Back to my initial question..?

anita