Dear Ana:

I think I understand. Problem is that for a person to be untrustworthy, it is not enough for the person to not have an intention to cheat and to not have an awareness of cheating.  It is required that the person is aware of what is happening.

Seems like you didn’t intend to cheat on your boyfriend and that you weren’t aware that it was wrong of you to listen to another man making sexual comments to you while you are in a relationship- but still, you did something wrong.

“Need a way to make him understand”- first make sure you understand what  it is that you did wrong. Then you will be able to explain it to him in a way that he is more likely to understand and forgive.

anita