Dear PikeMan:

Your wife feels that the two of you “have grown apart”, living like “roommates not husband and wife”, yet she is not motivated to grow toward you (“I asked her on a date this Saturday and she said no… I asked if she would like to talk at all, she said no”).

“She said she has noticed me trying very hard but her feelings of being distant and grown apart are not going away”-  as she noticed you trying very hard, she did not respond with empathy for you, empathy for you caring so much and therefore trying so hard. If she felt empathy for you, she would have felt closer, not distant like before.

You wrote: “I am a faithful, hardworking, honest, loyal man who loves his wife very much… I believe she is in a ‘funk’ and is hurt by my ignorance and unappreciative actions lately”-

– what do you mean by “ignorance and unappreciative actions lately”, what were those actions?

anita