Dear PikeMan:

Maybe your wife is guided solely by her feelings, as in no-spark, no-marriage. Doesn’t matter that she has two young children, and a loving, hard working, loyal husband, what matters to her is that she doesn’t feel the spark?

A marriage and family is a heavy duty commitment and a long term project, it requires a commitment independent of a spark (which cannot possibly be experienced at all time, nor can it be forced). It requires a partnership, common goals, common values. I suppose that is what the marriage counselor aimed at the two  of you discussing your “5 yr, 10 yr and retirement goals with one another”.

It is possible for your wife to experience a spark with another man, but that too will not last, the spark that is. And your two young children, two dependent lives- traded for a temporary spark?

anita