Dear PikeMan:

I would say that if you notice that she is uncomfortable being in the same bedroom as you, it being that she feels so distant, then ask her if she is indeed uncomfortable and suggest staying in separate rooms, for her comfort.

Because you will be seeing your new marriage counselor next week, if you don’t notice her discomfort, maybe you better wait and suggest it during the session.

My point still stands: give her distance and something is more likely to be ignited in that distance, and remember to remain pleasant and respectful within this distance.

anita