Dear curiousknowledgeseeker:

Welcome back to your own thread! It is a good thing that you accomplished what you aimed for: to not have your sister in law staying at your home while your parents in law visited you. So what happened is that your parents in law stayed in your home and later stayed in their daughter’s home.

I think it was appropriate that you sent your sister in law a short thank you message for her gift. It was not you submitting to her or letting her win- it is just a polite small message, that is all.

You shared how very traditional your husband’s family is, and according to the tradition, parents live or extensively visit the home of their son, not the daughters. This is what you accommodated having his parents in your home for 50 whole days. I don’t think tradition requires that you accommodate sisters in law, is it.

I wouldn’t send any other message at this point and focus on just one thing: do not have this sister in law in your home.

anita