Dear Luke:

You wrote: “everyone has biases or places they come from with experience, just wondering where you were coming from angle-wise”-

-after I posted you last, Dec 17, I realized that you and I do come from some of the same experiences of childhood and onward:

1. We both have a mother with what you referred to as a victim complex since her childhood (Oct, you wrote: “my Mum always having a victim complex” and in your Dec 17 post you wrote: “my Mum has a victim complex due to her childhood”).

2. Like the marriage between your parents (“parent’s marriages were of fighting and screaming matches”), same with my parent’s marriage.

3. Like in your case, my mother persistently blamed my father/ other people for hurting her, insulting her, betraying her, lying to her, etc.

4. Like in your case, my parents divorced following him cheating on her, the topic of many of those fights and screaming matches.

5. Just like you, “I’d never felt right or ‘seen’ growing up”, true to me too.

So you see, we do have something in common, a shared experience.

Like I wrote to you Dec 17, if you want to communicate with me further, do address me by name, and I will reply to you. Otherwise, you are welcome to keep posting here or start a new thread and I hope other members will reply to you, I will not.

Thank you for your words of appreciation and good wishes.

anita