Dear Lola:

I am sorry you had such a difficult year. I hope the fast approaching new year will be a much better year for you. Reads to me that you need to put this relationship in the past, leave it in 2019 and move on to 2020 without him. The relationship is too sick to heal, and not worth more of your time and effort put into it, because the two of you don’t share children (or property, assuming you don’t).

It will be easier and more promising if you heal individually and later on in the coming year, choose a more compatible man, choose wisely and proceed from there.

anita