Dear Luz:

“There’s a part of me that’s just angry at… that part of me that is scared”- imagine a child being scared and the parent getting angry at the child for being scared. What is the result? The child getting even more scared and shutting down.

Clearly, the solution is that the part of you that’s angry at the scared part needs to be very gentle and very patient and kind with the part that is scared.

Now, what is the scared part scared of? It is scared “to show my pain and scars to another person”.

What is that pain and scars, would you like to show it here, on your thread, using words, describing it?

anita