Hello Anita,

What you said about him not being qualified to deem me good enough to date, was extremely moving to me. I really needed to hear that. So thank you for pointing that out. After going to therapy last year I learned one of my deep core beliefs is that i’m not “good enough”.. so anytime that feeling is triggered it really hurts me. But i’m learning to recognize it now.

And yes that makes sense about how I pretty much gave him everything, made it extremely easy to go out with me and have sex with me, so of course why wouldn’t he keep going with that. With where he’s at in his life, he really doesnt have the money or effort to put into a relationship–which is basically what he’s told me. I do get that one hundred percent.

However, with sex off the table, as well as any of my attention anymore, I’m wondering if he’d change his mind and put more effort in. OR if he just doesn’t care about that and continues hooking up with other girls and enjoying his life as is, and occasionally messaging me on social media.

In the future, I suppose I shouldn’t jump into sex so soon without more communication? Its just SO hard to do that when I really enjoy sex and if the moment is right and attraction is there, why deny that experience. I guess I’m still learning how to communicate and what my boundaries are…