Thank you Anita.

what you have said makes a lot of sense.

I do understand that my parents have the right to decide whether or not my partner can stay over. I respect their choice and that this is their house. I am happy, most of the time, to live by their rules because it’s their house and I respect them.

I think what you have said about emotional reasoning sounds correct. I don’t think my partner has listened to my rational behind my decision. He does seem to be hanging onto the feeling of excitement and joy at finding a property we could ‘afford’ and where we could achieve our ‘dreams’.

Its weird because I always thought he was the rational and logical person and I am the highly sensitive, emotional and unrealistic person in the relationship. For years he has always been the practical one keeping me grounded.

Like you have said I think that recent events have aggravated his pre-existing issue with depression. I’m not sure how to help him through that if I’m honest! But I will try my best because he already did the same for me 4 years ago when I was at my very lowest.

Thank you x