Dear Katie:

On one hand you write about your cousin: “she is a big part of my support system. Who else, besides my boyfriend would support me?”, and on the other hand, you write about her: “she is kinda the bad guy for telling me I  need a nose job, constantly putting down my intelligence, saying I’m fat, putting her toxic ways of thinking onto me, and just not seeming to care about me in a lot of situations“-

You can’t have it both way: a big part of your support system is not congruent with putting you down and not caring for you constantly and in a lot of situations.

– so which one is it???

anita