Dear Bell:

I just finished reading our communication back in Oct 2018. Welcome back!

So it seems like the relationship with your ex ended July 2019, nine months after we last communicated. You are now in a new, two months long relationship.

“recently when I started to talk to him about some negative things happening with my life, he would react by with a blaming tone which I don’t feel good about… And I would keep quiet so there won’t be further conflicts… Is it me feeling insecure or do I have a cause to be worried that he might not like the ‘real’ me?”-

– to understand better so that I can suggest an answer to you, I ask:

1. Can you tell me what were those “negative things happening with my life” that you shared with him?

2. Have you shared with him about  these and other negative things in your life often and at length,  during these two months?

3. How did he react: what did he actually say to you that you believe was blaming, or was it only his tone of voice?

anita