Dear Kaouther:

I am familiar with hypocrisy being part of a culture, I grew up in one myself, lived it for many years. This is why I still think that it is not likely that “she was always nagging in front of” you,  but was a happy girl and a wonderful friend with others. She appeared like a wonderful friend to others- hypocrisy is all about appearances. In other words, a genuinely honest and fair person is not honest and fair with one person but not with another.

Here is what you wrote about yourself: “I always try to be honest and not hypocrite”- the good news: you are not the only one. Somewhere, in your culture, there is another person who tries to be honest and not a hypocrite. Find that person, find a few  of these people, and with the rest of the people: learn to interact with them superficially, in socially accepted ways (so to avoid friction) but without getting used or hurt.

Regarding having told that sort of friend that you will meet her and stay with her while the professor joins you, but planning to meet her but leave before the professor shows up- if I was you, I would call her and cancel tomorrow altogether. But again, I don’t understand all the details involved, so if you want, make it very clear to me why is the professor socializing with his students, what is the purpose of the meeting?

anita