Dear kiwiboy0897:

It was easier for me to answer you when I thought that your partner cut off any and all contact with Steve (“Steve has been completely cut off and no longer come to the gym”). Yesterday, “Steve has come back to the gym”. Now life is more complicated, isn’t it.

1. “do you think this classifies as emotional cheating?” – If all your partner did was what you indicated, then it isn’t emotional cheating.

2. “Am I asking for too much if I ask my boyfriend to completely cut all form of conversation with him? Am I asking for too much if I ask my boyfriend to completely cut all form of conversation with him? All form of interaction? That is, to not even answer some questions and just ignore his presence?”-

– Once Steve is in the gym, it is too much for you to ask your boyfriend to have no interaction whatsoever with Steve because that will create a negative atmosphere in the gym. What is needed in a gym is a positive environment where everyone is friendly.

On the other hand, it is not too much for you to ask that your partner asks Steve to not attend this particular gym, or that your boyfriend himself joins a different gym and work there as a trainer.

I have a question for you so that I can understand better. When you wrote earlier: “Steve has been completely cut off and no longer come to the gym”- what did your partner tell you two months ago that he told Steve in regard to cutting him off the gym?

anita