Dear kiwiboy0897:

Your words of appreciation made my day, what you wrote means a lot to me. Thank you!

“He is a very wonderful person”- and so are you. What a beautiful way to say it: “his imperfection makes him perfect to me.. I am satisfied and content with who he is”. He is a fortunate man.

Regarding the relationship between thoughts and anxiety, it is a very close relationship, as thoughts are the spark that ignite the embers, and more thoughts are added fuel to the fire. When we feel anxious, our tendency is to think, it is as if we take an elevator up to our heads and quarantine ourselves in a thinking chamber. What we need to do is take that elevator down from our heads to our bodies, do some exercise, slow yoga is an excellent way to keep our focus in our bodies.

Of course we can’t not think for too long, this is where Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) exercises come handy: challenging our thoughts: are they accurate or are they distorted, and if they are distorted, then we correct them. For example, “I admire Steve’s ambition” does not equal “I am falling in love with Steve’s personality”. You can find CBT exercises online. My introduction to CBT was the book CBT for Dummies which included exercises in it (or in a workbook that goes with it, I don’t remember).

Take your time regarding the exercise. You can postpone it until such time when you feel relaxed enough and comfortable doing it, and post before you do this exercise.

You are welcome and I am glad to be communicating with you. Keep yourself as safe as possible.

anita