Dear Anonymous:

You working in a hospital, being in the frontline of this pandemic- makes you a Pandemic Hero. I came up with the title and gave it to three members here, one working in a hospital in France as a medical student, another introducing and distributing testing kits in Sri Lanka, and the third person is you.

And, being a pandemic hero means in no way does this man we are discussing deserve you!

From what you shared, this man’s interest with women is casual sex, variety of women, and the fun of the pursuit. The fact that he is willing to take you to dinner with friends without having sex with you on that one night, does not mean that he is not strictly after casual sex with you.

He won’t get far with most women if he tells a woman: all I want with you is casual sex, I don’t want to take you to dinner, don’t want to talk to you on the phone about your feelings, I don’t want to hug you unless I am having sex with you, etc… that kind of straightforward talk almost never works for men. So they have to sprinkle their pursuit of women with some glitter of nicety, give them something of what they want: just a bit of sincerity, just a bit of listening, a sexless hug.. oh, how (not really) sweet.

Aim at seeing the difference between a man who pretends to be nice so to get what he wants, and a man who is genuinely nice.

Because this man is dishonest,  giving you some truths, some half truths, some lies, it is a waste of my time to try to figure out what of anything he tells you is true and what is not, there is no point to it. Why bother… See my point?

anita