Dear Shweta:

You started your thread with: “I have been in a same sex long distance relationship for almost 10 months now and it is my first relationship in a way”- so I expected to read about a relationship, a love relationship, but didn’t find one. So I figure maybe because you didn’t have a relationship before this woman, you don’t realize that this was not really a relationship—

“We met in May 2019.. her ex still being in the picture.. July.. They still continued to meet.. August.. I asked her to come and meet me.. she was too busy and cannot make it… We had more video calls.. September.. she would really like to visit me.. I cleared my schedule for her.. Just a day before, when I wanted to confirm the plans, she mentioned that it’s too expensive and she cannot leave the dog… We argued … One day, she just decided that she will come and meet me… We met and everything went really well and then she broke up with me… December.. She has been very busy.. February, there were small arguments and fights of not being able to even talk to each other for 5 minutes.. an argument erupted and when I confronted her, she said she might not be available in the future as well.. She blocked me and then unblocked me and then refused to take my calls or respond to my messages.. I want her back.. I am very confused”

I don’t know if you met May 2019 in person or online, but you didn’t meet with her in person from sometime in May 19- Sept 19..? Then you met only one time and she broke up with you on that one time. So.. what you call a relationship is or was an on and (lots of off) online communication with arguments and outbursts?

anita