Dear Anna:

You are welcome. “I can’t figure out why she feels such a need to keep emphasizing how awesome and amazing her relationship is going”- I figure her  need is to feel better, and it makes her feel better to brag about her relationship to you and to point how yours is not as good as hers. Why does she need to feel better? Because her great relationship.. doesn’t make her feel that great.

“they are getting married, so obviously that’s a total success”- only if you go by fairytales that end with “And they lived happily ever after”. You can read many accounts on the forums here about women getting married being far from any success, let alone total success.

“And she might be right! Maybe I AM wasting my time..”- she may be right. But even a broken clock is right twice a day. Don’t give her that much credit.

“Maybe I AM really not asking for what I really want”- maybe you don’t. If you want, this conversation doesn’t have to end here. If you want to continue, then you are welcome to answer: what is it that you really want, what is your idea of a “happily ever after”, and how different is what you want from what you already have in the past?

anita