Dear Joe:

I  don’t have common sayings to the kind of guided meditation that I suggested to you because I never heard one.

On second thought, I have a better idea for you to start with: you can download a Progressive Muscle Relaxation guided meditation, one that suits you, that feels good to you. It will start with breathing, and proceeds with instructing you to relax your whole body, part by part. At one point, when you are relaxed and the speaker no longer speaks (or you an pause the audio), bring her image to your mind and keep her image in your brain for a while.

The idea behind this idea is that you see her/ think of her when you are most relaxed, associating her image with calm.

When we are very relaxed, we are not inclined to think or over-think. Not thinking, just feeling calm, is what you want to associate with her image/ thought of her.

You can try it and let me know how it works.

anita