Dear Rebecca:

I remember your story and I remember that we communicated, but I don’t see your previous thread or thread on record here. Any idea where I can find your previous threads?

“They are carrying on without me and are doing very well- I’m terrified they’ll be successful and I’ll have to read about them”- if by reading about them, you mean that they will become a national or international success, that is unlikely, statistically speaking. Way too many excellent bands break up, conflicts and disagreements between members happen a lot, members leaving the band. Even if bands are solid and talented, fame and fortune happens only to a small percentage. So don’t be terrified, if you can; adjust this fear to the very small chance of them becoming very famous.

I sure hope that you will soon be able to accept what happened by thoroughly feeling and expressing (here on your thread, if you want) the hurt, sadness and anger that you feel about your hopes and dreams regarding this man and the band, not coming true. Adequately expressed, you will feel way less of these feelings, and way more peace of mind.

anita