Dear Peeeeet:

“he completely erupted at me.. frothing mad.. disgusted with himself for being in  love with someone who brought out the worst in him.. After storming off he eventually came back out and apologized for the coldness and hostility and of the last few days and for his earlier outburst. He said we were adults and could live in this space together in peace.. He asked that I keep using the list as he was still  in no state to be around or engage  with me… there’s been some civil dialogue”-

– my advice from earlier still stands. Regarding how to control your behavior while you feel like you are “bursting at the seams and scared to  pop”-

– is it allowed, where you live, to take a walk  outside,  while maintaining social distancing? If it is, take a walk a few times a day, get some fresh air, it will lower your stress level. A hot shower a few times a day may do  it too. Also guided meditations: my therapist at the time assigned me a homework assignment to do between sessions. Part of each homework assignment was to listen to one of Mark Williams guided meditations, a series, theme: mindfulness. Try to download his series and listen to one meditation at a time, in the order recommended.

Bottom line is that the two of you have to find a way to live in  peace, and if you don’t, one of you will have to leave and find a place to live elsewhere.

You brought up other things in your recent post. If you want me to  address something I didn’t address in this post, let me know. But soon, I  will  be away from the computer for a few hours.

anita