Dear Maile:

Twelve days ago, you wrote: “I understand that feeling abandoned as a child, both physically and emotionally probably lends to my need for a guy that I like to need me.. I never feel secure in a relationship after I’ve fallen in love”.

Today you wrote: “when I  was little, my entire bedroom was a nursery. I had so many dolls and everything.. My mother who was an OB nurse scared me out of having children when I was a teenager”-

– in that nursery, with so many dolls and everything, what was it that you did not have?

– is  it that your mother was absent a lot, working in a hospital as a nurse.. who was there with you when she was at work?

– have you “always wanted to adopt a lot of children” because you were so lonely, alone and lonely in that nursery/ life as a child?

– what did she say to you that scared you out of having children?

The emotional breakdown you just had, it was about “the desire and wanting.. to still be  with the guy”, is it similar to the desire you had, as a young child, to not be alone, so terribly  alone?

anita