Dear Anita

Thank you so much for your reply – I really appreciate you taking the time to read my posting. Okay, so maybe I do need to elaborate a little about my background. I’m NOT looking for a partner. My boyfriend, my soulmate, passed away in an accident 10 years ago. That was the reason I went “numb” and made sudden drastic changes in my life. I just wanted to be alone at that moment, and sort myself out. Looking back I realize that even my personality changed after that, and till today I’m a little confused about who I am at the age of 32yrs old 🙁

A lot of time has gone by since then… I got close to my grandparents, but they both passed away of old-age related illnesses a few years ago. And my one friend which I was getting close to moved back to India with her family. So anyway, it just seems a little fated that in my life the people I get close have to leave. But I’ve been very very blessed in my life in so so many ways.

Sorry that was a long explanation.

Basically, I hope you understand my situation a little better, and what I’m really looking for now is to come out my shell, meet new people and hopefully form some female friendships. As I haven’t been on social media for more than 10 years, I am not really sure if online approach in meeting friends is suitable for me. I don’t think people go online to make friends with people they don’t know…I’m not into Instagram/FB or anything.

So apart from online, do you have any other advice or suggestions on how do you meet friends when you’re in your 30s? I tried joining a women’s meetup walking group last month before my country imposed a lockdown, but generally  I find myself very shy and awkward in social settings. I’m always thinking to myself “I hope they don’t know I don’t have any friends!” Does anyone else feel this way?

Thank you.

EE