Dear Jane:

“he tells me that he is guaranteeing me a ‘lifetime of happiness’ by living on the farm with him”- he can’t guarantee that, no one can, not for oneself and not for someone else.

Your partner is very passionate and unreasonable: his above guarantee is unreasonable, and not considering what you want as he plans a lifetime for the two of you is also unreasonable.

* I don’t think that you can or should travel anytime soon, not during a pandemic, not before Covid-19 is contained!

I suggest that you tell your partner that he is unreasonable, for the two things I just mentioned, and listen to his response. I will be glad to read further from you and reply again.

anita