Or should I go by what you said and change from “so I wish you all the happiness you can handle and like I’ve said before, to be free in every possible way and to keep on loving people as you are. Hope there is no rift between us and I do respect your opinion so feel free to share it.” to more “from now on i’ll be less active in communicating with you until  you reach out more so I am not doing all the work” or along those lines? Not an ultimatum but she will know I am going to invest less into our friendship until she starts reaching out for once and starts doing her part as she KNOWS it bothers me. Then if she still doesn’t reach out…well, that’s that.