Dear Lewis:

“Where do I go from here?”

1. Continue your personal development.

2. Get involved/ improve your involvement in your children’s lives, so that you are a better father to them. If their mother is neglectful or abusive to them, legally and practically protect them. Otherwise,  do your best to get along with her for the purpose of participating in your children’s lives in a way that will benefit them.

3. In regard to mi Angelita:

“How can I rebuilt this friendship:

1. Resolve to do her no harm. She has enough of a struggle in her life, she can’t handle any more struggle. No matter what she says or doesn’t say to you, do not react angrily while in her presence (online, on the phone, or in person).

You have the right now and in the future to limit or end contact with her, but if you choose to have contact with her, and for as long as you do, see to it that none of it includes angry talk or action on your part, expressions of suicidal ideation, or anything that will cause her anxiety on top of what she is already experiencing.

2. Expect this friendship to be time limited as her symptoms worsen to a point where she will not be able to engage in a friendship, or any kind of a relationship with you.

3. Demand nothing of her and be willing to give her more than you receive.

“Will it ever be the same? Will it ever be more?”- if it will be the same or more, take it as a gift, a time limited gift, and treasure this gift, for as long as it lasts.

“Will I find what I deeply desire.. since my teens, true love?”- you already found this in her, this is why you started your personal development, inspired by her true love for you.

Take in her true love for you, absorb it, let it sink in and let it encourage you as you proceed to make better and better choices, making your life meaningful, as a man and a father.

In the future, you may get involved with another decent woman who will love you and who will be healthy enough physically and emotionally to carry on a love relationship with you.

For as long as you are in mi Angelita’s life, be good to her.

anita

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