hey brandy

thank u for replying and clarifying ur response it’s really insightful:)

i get what you mean about people wanting to be with the people who have the most fun it makes a lot of sense especially for people around my age.

i guess it’s important to realise that having a connection with someone is preferable over someone seeking my approval.

i think people are also afraid of the consequences of non-conformity, a lot of the times the person people gravitate toward (let’s call person A) is often intimidating/have connections to intimidating group of friends or people. as a result people would rather appease person A as to avoid the repercussions of person A and their friends not liking them. for example i work at a fast food restaurant and there was a conflict between two team members one was a “person A” the other was not. Every team member chose to defend and back up person A despite him being in the wrong. The other team member was being ‘attacked’. i tried to defend the second team member and got told to “shut up” repeatedly by other team members. it’s sad to see that people choose to appease people over their own morals and values.

as a young impressionable person surrounded by young impressionable people it’s hard not to conform and i don’t blame people for seeking Person A’s approval i cant say i’ve never done this. but i think it’s ignorant of them to not see what they’re doing and its reign over their morality