Dear User34:

You are welcome. You wrote on the topic of your strong, quick emotional attachment to men: “I am going to try stay in contact with reality, and not in my imagination”-

– an excellent point because the emotional attachment to a man in a romantic relationship context often parallels the emotional attachment of a child to a parent, be it to her mother or father (not gender specific). And it is only in our imagination that the man is like a parent, and that we are still children:

A woman who grows up feeling alone, not connected with her parent, is likely to look up to men later on as rescuers, similar to how a child looks up to her parent, as a powerful entity. Even if a parent doesn’t take good care of the child, the child believes the parent is very capable of taking care of the child, and making the child feel good, if only the parent wanted to, or if only the child deserved the parent’s love.

This looking up to a man as a powerful entity, as someone that can make such a big difference in how we feel, that’s imaginary, a fantasy.

anita