Dear Anita and Inky,

Thank you for this advice, with my mind and heart all a bit of a mess right now I have failed to look at things such as “The goal is that each party to the relationship is part of the Solution for the other, not part of the problem.”

Thank you Inky for another perspective on this situation! I can see things from a different light now and you’ve really given me a lot to think about. I sure as hell want a man who is resilient, flexible and has a good sense of humour. I deserve that.