Dear Marcos:

You wrote that from 1 to 10, 10 being most unsatisfied, your level of dissatisfaction is 7, that this dissatisfaction doesn’t affect you as an employee, or as a father: you’re “always present in their lives”, and you don’t want to be far from them, and you don’t want another man in their lives. As a husband you do your best to make your wife happy. But you are not happy in the marriage, you can’t fake happy.

Your wife knows that you are unhappy with her and yet, she is okay with you being unhappily married to you, as long as you don’t get involved with any other woman (“she says she is jealous and wants a normal relationship”).

If you were to divorce, you “might get a girlfriend but would never live with someone again, no more ties”.

My input today and a question: you are not guilty for how you feel, and I understand you not being able to fake being happily married to your wife. I don’t understand something: how can your wife be okay with going to bed with you every night knowing that you don’t want to be there with her, any idea how she does it???

anita