Dear Helen:

You are welcome. “I come back from college in my hometown and feel I have no-one to go out with, because everyone has its own group of friends”- it is difficult to feel excluded, each one of us people need to feel that we belong to a group. It is not different from how it is with other social animals, such as coyotes and elk, they too need to feel that they belong to a group.

Even if you feel that you belong to the group you were born into aka your family, a young person needs a group of her peers to belong to. I wonder if you felt his way, being excluded before high school/ before the breakup in high school and losing the mutual friends you had at the time (?)

anita