Thank you so much Canadian Eagle for taking your time to write your advice.

If I chose number one, I feel like I will be able to rebuild my life without any assistant from my SO. I’m an independent woman and I am not afraid of starting from the scratch. I am capable of taking care and raising my kids well by myself. However, I always feel guilty and selfish if I chose this one. My husband has been trying to make our marriage work (of course because he did not know much about my affair that already over, I just cant move on from the man yet and  as I mentioned if he knew more, he would end right away) So because he’s been trying to make it work, I feel so bad for him if I keep pursuing the divorce.

Option 2 will not work in a long run  because I dont have any desire to be with him. He knew about my feelings for him is not there any more, but because of the kids, I try to make everything look normal for them. We don’t fight or argue in front of them, we function out daily things normally.  But I don’t see myself to be with him for the rest of my life.

Option 3, I do love him , I do accept his flaws and the way he is, I never try to change him. But I’m not in love with him, I’m not attractive to him emotionally and physically.  I love him like a friend, there is no romantic love or intimacy from me for him. He still pays attention and affection to me but I just don’t have the same thing to him.

I thank you again for your time.

Take care

I understand your point.