Dear Anita,

I understand the syntax but I am not sure how to apply your reply to myself.  Do you mean that I need to learn to live with my husband with his faults?  He is a compulsive liar, for one, which is terribly confusing but he says he can’t stop.  I wasn’t actually all that keen on having any more relationships with men at all.

I often asked my husband for us to do a joint therapy but he’s not into it.  We tried briefly a couple of times but he doesn’t like male therapists and then when we had a female, he always criticised them (essence: too powerful).   I think he’s not into me any more either.  I’m a bit confused, could you elaborate?  Thank you.

Juanita