Dear Cecilia:

“two weeks ago, he became cold and distant. I questioned: he said he was troubled by the pandemic, his children, his work, etc… he told me that he had lost momentum and interest in continuing.. I wrote him an email .. he never came back on this email.. there was not enough consideration for me to at least attest to having read my message”- I agree, it was inconsiderate of him, at the least, to not reply to your message. It was hurtful behavior  on his part to not reply to your email.

“I don’t understand it.. how can someone changed his views while we couldn’t see each other during lockdown!”? – it is possible that during lockdown he started to communicate online with another woman, maybe his ex, maybe someone else. Some people, when depressed look for something new and exciting to.. sort of, wake them up from their depression. Other people withdraw when depressed, wanting to be left alone, to not be bothered by anyone or anything.

“I feel I didn’t act correctly.. Maybe I should have..”- I didn’t read anything you did wrong with him. It reads to me that he got depressed during the lockdown and either found something exciting to make him forget his troubles, or that he withdrew from anyone he didn’t have to interact with.

Again, he should have answered your email and he should have answered it honestly, empathetically and respectfully. How are you feeling now, as you read this?

anita