Dear Jan,

Thank you so much for your response and your insights. It’s very helpful.

I struggled for a long time against the idea of ​​rebound because I had expressed this fear to him from the start … I should have listened to how I felt but I wanted so much to start this relationship …

They broke up in the summer of 2019. She was the one who put an end to it, among other things because she thought it was someone who took little initiative. He tells me he had a very difficult summer. Then they met again in December, with physical intimacy. She told him then that it meant nothing to her and that there was no false hope. And I contacted him 2 weeks after this happened…

It is true that I led him to want to position himself, but he was sending me signals that I thought were those of a man interested in going towards this type of relationship with me. It is true that when I proposed supper with my family, he quickly declined telling me that he was not ready … but he made me meet his cousin and his wife the week before. ..I did not understand too much. I love your words: “And let him bridge the gap between you, don’t keep doing it yourself.” I will try to repeat it to myself when the urge comes to contact him … I just find it difficult to think back to all these good moments together, everything was going so well from the start until this event … I wanted to be there for him but it may not be me that he needs…