Dear Lea:

You feel strongly for this man. It is a powerful statement: “this young guy is .. the ‘healthiest’ attraction I’ve ever had, in the sense that I don’t see him as any substitute, it was him, as a person I was/ am attracted to”.

On my walk, before I read your recent post (“I mostly need to understand I guess.. can’t stop thinking about his intentions”), I thought to myself that there is a good chance for me, and you, to understand him better by knowing the questions he asked you, (I think you wrote that he asked you a lot of questions about your past relationships):

What questions did he ask you, what kinds of questions did he asked you repeatedly?

What in your answers to him did he ignore and what in your answers to him did he focus on, wanting to know more about, leading him to ask you more questions?

anita