Dear Maria:

You are welcome. You shared that you want a man who is kind, polite, caring, understanding, open minded, has a wide vision of life, a man who is excited about life, adventurous, believing that life is to be experienced, physically attractive, okay with your taste of music and likes children.

I have two questions (my purpose for asking is to get to know you better):

1. You wrote earlier that your friends are much ahead of you, “they seem to be more adults”, and unlike you, they had their first boyfriend before the age of 20. Do you perceive their boyfriends to be the kind of young men that would fit your criteria (being kind, polite, adventurous, etc.)?

2. You shared that you “get nervous when someone tries to flirt” with you, “I feel uncomfortable.. I get worried if I look awkward.. always escape those scenes”-

– when you encounter a man in your life, you become focused on yourself, on how you look, how you behave- so your focus is not on the man. How do you get to know if he is all these things you are looking in a man if your focus is on you, and not on him. If you are so uncomfortable when approached by a man, so nervous, how do you get to know if the man is open minded and excited about life, etc.?

anita

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